The first question should be, “How willing are you to move on?” Acceptance is the key. You accept the fact that the person is never coming back and it is over. Yes it damn hurts, but you have to be strong.
1. Keep yourself busy. Divert your attention to something else. Make yourself productive. I once tried having three jobs all at the same time for something like three-consecutive months, but then, I got burnt out. It was quite effective at first though because it makes you productive and keeps you busy while earning good money. But I’m telling you, it’s not healthy. You can only do this for quite sometime, it’s like some band-aid solution to the heartbreak. But it isn’t effective in the long run.
2. Hang out with your friends. Have a chill out with your friends. Although at the end of the day, you realize that you still have to deal with it ALONE. Friends can listen, give sound advice, but it will be YOU & You alone who will decide when will you be okay.
3. Travel with your friends or you can travel alone. They say that traveling alone can do so much for self-restrospection. A change of environment somehow helps.
4. One of the most effective ways to release anxiety is to eat a lot. Been there, done that. After my heartbreak last year, I hopped from one buffet resto to another. I also did a lot of food trips and discovered hole-in-the-walls I never even knew existed. I also ate (sort of “dated” myself & my family) at restaurants where me and my ex used to/planned to eat/visit, not to remember him by, but more so for myself—proving that I can make new memories in such places even without him.
5. Express what you feel in writing and music. A few weeks after the breakup, I was able to write 40 articles on moving on and dealing with a broken heart which I had published on the website I am writing for. That makes a lot of sense as I was able to turn my sorrow into something profitable. Talk about hitting two birds with one stone eh?
6.. Climb a mountain with your friends.
7. Get away of all the things that would remind you of him or her. I had erased all memories of him on my phone and laptop. Since he was the first one to blocked me on social media accounts, he has done me a huge favor by doing so. I no longer had to see his ugly face which will remind me of his monster narc ways.
8. If you feel like crying, then you cry. Pour all your feelings out. Crying does not make you any weak. Cry until you realize that you are are just wasting your tears to someone who does not give a sh*t about you.
9. Be a better person. The best revenge that you can give to your ex is not to be with someone else but to be truly happy with yourself.
10. Pray. Prayers does a lot of miracles. I do not mean for you to pray to God for him to come back into your life. But pray for your inner strength. Pray that you can move on with your life smoothly and just think of the past as it is--a part of your past.
Oh, and please learn to forgive yourself for everything you may have or may not have done in the said relationship. Love yourself more so that you don’t give away yourself so foolishly to someone who does not deserve you or your attention & would just get you for his supply. This was something I had to learn the hard way as I felt like I was almost on the verge of self-destructive because I felt so empty...so pathetic after being devastated by the love I had given before. But as it is, God loves me more than I know. By His grace, before it was too late, I finally came to my senses.
Moving on is never easy. There is no short cut to it. It would be really hard to forget someone who give you so much to remember, but you can do it. It will take time but surely you will get over with that feeling. You will certainly be fine. Just keep the faith and trust in God.
